As I have been recently avoiding books that make me cry, I was surprised when the book, See You at Harry's was recommended to me and I jumped at the chance to read it. I was even warned.... this will be sad.
I felt confident. It has been a long time since I really had a breakdown. I have been dealing with my life pretty well, and I even read a book about a widowed woman and laughed through the 300-some pages of her experience. They say that humor is a more intelligent way to deal with grief. If that is true, I am the smartest person alive. As Chandler on Friends would say, "I'm not so good with the advice, can I interest you in a sarcastic comment?"
When this particular book was recommended as a 'most wonderful story', I took it home and spent the following nights engrossed in its pages. It truly is a great story, and one that I didn't want to put down, but I spent the entire book much like I did while reading The Help.... with a bad feeling in the pit of my stomach. As I was warned that it was a sad story, I knew that something bad would happen... I just didn't know what. That might have made it worse. It sounds bad to say, but I was expecting an awful outcome... and what happened was just short of that.
At one point, I returned to the person who recommended the book in the first place to check with her as to what was about to happen. As someone who often turns to the end of novels to read the last chapter to keep anxiety at bay, I was very nervous. She wouldn't tell me what happened (very nice of her), but she did assure me that everything would turn out 'ok-ish'.
When bad things happen, it is sometimes children who get left behind and neglected. This isn't the first book I have read where something bad happens and a child is basically ignored while their parents get a grip on things. While I would like to say that these types of books aren't accurate and don't portray what actually happens when tragedy strikes, I unfortunately know that they are.
As with Captain Nobody by Dean Pitchford, another of this type of realistic fiction books that deal with family tragedy and children's coping skills, See You at Harry's gives an accurate portrayal of a family in grief. When tragedy struck my own family, I watched as my aunt and uncle went through the heartbreak of losing their child and were so caught up in their own grief they left my cousins to fend for themselves. I guess the other children are a casualty of the tragedy as well.
Hopefully, this type of books provide comfort to grieving families and to the children left in them. Perhaps if they read these novels, they feel as if what their family is going through is normal, which is half the battle in grief.... knowing that they aren't alone. How unfortunate.
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